My Purple Obsession (2): Reviews

In the last post I talked about my love for purple lipsticks, and lip colors in general. So, here are the 7 purple lipsticks that I own in order of purchase. (Except for my beloved childhood friend, because I still don’t know what it’s called.)

From top to bottom: Hema, Collistar, Nyx Liquid Suede, Kiko, NYC (with ‘blurred’ right side), Nyx Soft Matte Lipcream, Maybelline


– HEMA‘s Soft Matt lipbalm in 09: This is a plum. The application can be a little patchy, but this can be fixed by layering. Not very long-lasting, but it fades pretty. It’s a balm, so it’s soft. And it smells sweet, a little like berries! I use this very often, it’s a perfect fall color.

– COLLISTAR‘s Rossetto Puro in N.60 Glicine: This is a bit more of a ‘high-end’ product. The color is a pinkish violet with a golden undertone. I almost forgot to put this on my list, because I don’t use this now, and I didn’t use it much when I first bought it either. My mom loves it, though! While the product itself is great–it does exactly what you expect of any regular lipstick–I never liked the golden undertone. I had bought it initially because I wanted a purple for spring, but for me the gold is too prominent.

– NYX‘s Liquid Suede in 20 Oh, put it on: This was my first liquid lipstick, and I LOVE IT SO MUCH! This one is a blackish purple, and in the dark it probably looks black. But it’s not, I know the truth! I love the applicator, I love the formula, it stays on all night. This one does transfer a little, but I heard (via youtube vloggers) that it’s only this particular color in the Suedes line that transfers. (Nyx recently came out with Metallic Suedes, they’re supposed to be matte with some shimmer! I want it!)

– KIKO‘s Crystal Sheer Lipstick in 419: This is exaclty what the name says it is. It’s lipstick, it’s sheer, it sparkles. Everything a gloss should do, but in lipstick form, which means it wears a little longer. And I prefer the feeling of lipstick on my lips, as opposed to lip glossBuying this I should have read the label, or at least swatched it. But I was in Germany, my mom was waiting for me outside, and I was overwhelmed by the beautiful purple. Thus, I bought this thinking it would be opaque, that was a bit of a letdown. While it’s not an out-there color, I still love it because it’s different. Not many people wear a purple gloss.

– NYC‘s City Proof Matte long lasting blur lip color in 402 Central Park Plum: Now this is a mouthful. It’s red-leaning plum color. When I saw this in the drug store, I was like ‘blur? huh?’ Yeah, this has a thicker lip pencil on the one end, and a sponge on the other end. You’re supposed apply it close to the opening of your mouth, and then smudge it outwards for an ombre effect. What I do? I either use it as lip liner, or I use it all over my lips and then smudge a little for a muted effect. It’s great if you want the color, but you don’t want it on full blast. Tip: clean the sponge regularly, or the sponge will transfer product back on your face where it doesn’t belong.

– NYX‘s soft matte lip cream in 26 Havana: A lip cream that stays on longer than expected. It takes a few tries to figure out the perfect application. The sales person said from the corners of the lips to the middle, and I do that, sort of, but it feels weird. So most of the time I start that way, but end up doing it however the hell I want to do it. This would have been the perfect purple if it had been more violet, but it’s still a gorgeous color. I haven’t worn this often, because I’m not used to this kind of vibrancy. And because the application is a little harder, I don’t want to put it on when I leave the house for a long period of time, or when I plan on eating something, because I don’t think I could re-apply it on-the-go.

– Maybelline‘s Vivid Matte Liquid in 43 Vivid Violet: This is a line that Maybelline extended, because there didn’t used to be a purple, and I saw in the drugstore that they also added Lacquer’s in this formula, as opposed to this Matte one. Or well, it’s supposed to be, but it is not matte. It has a satin look when it dries down, but there is still some shine to it. Also, it’s a little patchy and needs multiple layers for it to be opaque. I bought this thinking it would be more violet than the previous one by Nyx, but the color is only a shade lighter. I can make it work if I use less product, and thus make it less opaque, but still, I shouldn’t have to do this to get the desired effect. These are slightly scented, and they have a taste. I don’t dislike it, but I prefer my make-up to have no scent and no taste.

Nevertheless, my search continues… (I saw Lush had lipsticks and they have a purple too! But it’s not available in stores, and the shipping online is hella expensive, so that’s nope.)


My Purple Obsession

With every purple lipstick I come across, the temptation to buy it is stronger than with any other lipstick. And I love love love lipsticks!

But… Why am I obsessed with this particular color?

It started when I was a little girl roaming through my mother’s beauty case, which was made out of hard black plastic. It had a rectangular shape with soft edges, and in my memory it almost has an oval shape. The lid opened by pushing on a silver metal lock until you heard it click. It then folded over because there were hinges on the other side, like a suitcase. To the young me, this giant trunk was paradise.

There was this loose top panel that could be lifted up and out of the entire case so you could get to what’s underneath at the bottom. That was my territory. The top panel, I think, was filled with blushes, eye-shadow palettes, and my mom’s most used lipsticks. Or that’s what I assumed, because as I said, I didn’t really ‘play’ with those. My focus was on the numerous nail polishes at the bottom. My little mind loved that there were so many shades of pinks and reds and purples.

However, neglected at the bottom of that beauty case, between all of the nail polishes, was one lipstick. I remember it clear as day. The cylinder tube had a blueish purple color, with thin white diagonal lines painted on the side. Parallel to those was the name of the brand, but for the love of God, I cannot remember what it was called. I have tried searching Google, but I cannot find it, and I cannot recall it. It is sooo frustrating. Especially, because inside the tube was the most beautiful frosted purple lipstick that my eyes had ever seen in their short life. Oh girl, did I love putting that thing on my lips.

How to put on lipstick: First, you apply one layer, then you press your lips into a paper towel, and then you apply a second layer. For full coverage and longevity. That’s how my mom taught me!

Fast forward to me as a teenager, when I started using make-up in the last two years of secondary school, but only on the weekends, because fuck it if I had to wake up earlier before school to put my face on. Back then I focused on eye-shadows though, because that’s what all of my friends were doing. I didn’t know any better, and my teenage angst wanted me to fit in, so that meant copying the people around me.

The last couple of years, I have been experimenting more with lipsticks, branching out into more eye-catching colors. It went from vibrant pinks to deep reds, and nowadays I’m into darker colors like browns, purples, dark nudes–oxymoron, I know, but it’s the best way I can explain it. I’m not a beauty guru, I just like pretty lips. I want to try out a blue, and a black, but I’m taking it slow. Nevertheless, the color that I have the most lipsticks of is, yes, PURPLE! I have amassed 7 of them up until this point, and I’ll go through them in a separate post (because this one here is getting too long).

This last year my range of purples has increased exponentially, because I have been looking for that perfect shade of purple violet. The reason? Some time last spring, I was having drinks with friends. And in my periphery I saw this girl with the perfect shade of purple on her lips. And to this day, I curse myself for not going up to her and asking what she was wearing. Introvert problems. Thus, I have been searching all summer, and I can’t seem to find it, but when I do come across purple my mind goes: that would be an excellent addition to your collection. Logically, I know I do not need any more purples, but its sooo pwetty!

Hello, my name is Valerie, and I’m an addict.





P.S. the review of my purple lipsticks will be up tomorrow, I still have some pictures of swatches to take 😉

Don’t Be a Dick at Concerts

Hello everyone,

I’m sorry it’s been awhile. I’ve had couple drafts ready, but I never got around to finishing one until now. This post was supposed to be a review about a couple concerts I went to recently, but the more I kept writing, the more boring they sounded. No one wants to hear me go over every single song, and how great the performance of it was. There’s only so many ways to not make it repetitive. So instead, I’ll talk about some annoying things people do at concerts.

At the end of February, I went to a Banks concert, and this guy kept talking to his friends while the singer was on stage performing. He was trying to talk loud enough so that his friends could hear him over the music. I mean, I get it if someone wants to comment on something that’s happening on stage, but if you want to talk longer than one minute you should probably go somewhere you can actually have a conversation. The rest of us would rather hear the song and not the details of whatever the hell you’re trying to say.

Moreover, in a small venue, the singer can actually hear the murmurs as well. Believe it or not, concert halls are built to carry sound across the room, and it works in both directions. What this means is that if you’re able to make yourself heard over the music, it’s likely that you are disturbing the artist’s performance as well. And while in this case the person talking was shushed pretty fast, I’ve been to a performance where the artist said he would walk off the stage and give an acoustic performance on the street for the people who were actually there to listen to him, if the rest of the audience didn’t stop talking. So in the future, show some respect for the person giving their full on stage, they’re trying to do their job.

Talking, or any other disruption, is my main pet peeve, but there are other smaller issues: If you paid for assigned seating, please sit in the chair that was actually assigned to you. Sure, sometimes the seating blocks are confusing, and it’s very possible to sit in the wrong place if you’re not careful. It’s a mix-up that is easy to unravel and fix. Don’t make a big deal out of it, check your tickets, move and apologize if you’ve made a mistake. On the other hand, if you purposefully stay in the seat that you know you didn’t pay for, because the girl whose seat you’re occupying is okay with sitting on the stairs (probably because she’s a teenager, too shy to stand up to an actual forty-something adult), then you’re being a dick, so just fucking move your ass out. This happened at the Emeli Sandé concert I went to, and the actual adult only moved once one of the stewards said the girl was not allowed to sit on the stairs for security reasons.

My third complaint are phones and cameras. Of course you can take a picture of the artist, or record a part of a song you like as a memory. But please keep it to a maximum of 5 pictures and 2 recordings. The artist is there performing for you. They’re on location to connect to their audience. It’s hard for Bruno Mars to make heart-eyes to your face, when your phone is obstructing his view. I admit I am guilty of taking pictures, but I do put my phone away for most of the performance once I have a decent shot. Furthermore, it’s really fucking annoying to sit or stand behind someone who has his camera up in the air the whole fucking time. Like, excuse me, I’m here to look at Bruno Mars, not a pixelated image of Bruno Mars on your screen. Additionally, if he asks you to put away your phone, for fuck’s sake put that damn phone away, he’s only asking for this one song, even though he’d probably prefer it if you didn’t record his whole concert.

I want to end this post with something that happened to my friend, and me–but she had the worst of it–at an Emeli Sandé concert last March. We were sitting next to two girls, they were on my friend’s side. They entered the row audibly, which is okay, they were having fun. The first thing one of the girls said to us was that her friend was going to be screaming loudly, which again was nothing out of the ordinary. The frustrating part comes in where they were buzzed and smelled of alcohol when they arrived. The girl sitting next to my friend took it upon herself to turn my introverted friend into an extrovert. Trying to coax her into yelling, and singing, and dancing. To not give a fuck, and scream when everyone else was quiet. At one point, she said my friend was beautiful, which is cool, it’s a compliment. But it turned to where she might have been hitting on my friend who was clearly not interested, and only there to listen to the music. My friend even missed her favorite song, because the girl next to her wouldn’t stop talking to her. At one point the girl even cried, supposedly out of pity, which is incredibly disrespectful, and fuck her for making my friend feel bad. Some people are quiet, and don’t mind silence, deal with it. Not everyone has a loud personality. The only thing she accomplished was stressing her the fuck out, and making her uncomfortable. Overall making the experience less amazing, while it should have been epic!

Basically, what to take away from this post is, show some fucking respect to the artist on stage, and the person in the audience next to you. It’s called common decency.

Emeli Sandé – Long Live The Angels Tour



My name is Valerie.

I started this blog, because I always liked the idea of having a blog. An online journal. So, I finally stopped finding excuses as to why not and I went for it. That being said, I’m not sure how often I’ll update this blog. I would like to say once a week, or once every two weeks, but I know myself, and I am the worst kind of procrastinator, which is why I can’t make any promises.

Content-wise, this blog will be about anything that inspires me in the moment, whether that’s a book I’ve read recently, a newly published album by a favorite artist, or just something that happened to me personally… We’ll see how it goes. I don’t want to commit to one thing, and then be stuck in that box forever. I have a hard time making decisions as it is, and I don’t want to restrict myself.

The title of my blog, Kindness Is Optional, in real life I’m known to be a kind person (if I say so myself). But I do believe that one of the most important things in life is to be kind to each other, to a stranger, to a friend, or to your family. I was especially inspired by the quote Noora had on her wall in the Norwegian Series Skam:

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”

And that is exactly how I want to live my life, because it’s true. At any given moment in time you do not know what someone is going through, and they don’t know how bad your day is going, so give each other a break once in a while. However, and this is why I went with kindness is optional, it’s okay to put yourself first. If being kind means you have to scrub away at a part of yourself, it’s not worth it. Stand up for what you believe in, be true to yourself. That’s what this blog is for me. What I write here will come from my heart. My soul will speak through my words. I won’t always be kind, but I will be honest.

That’s it for now!

Lots of love,